Online Game Relationships

We just celebrated Heart’s Day and no, I’m not going to talk about how players celebrate this day in-game. Instead, I’ll talk about relationships that started through an online game.

Generally, online relationships have a small chance of success. And by success I mean being together for a loooooong time.

I’ve come across a handful of people who met through online games and they’re still together.

Friendship, I think, is the best foundation of a relationship. Take for example one of the most recent couples of RF Online — Kahlil Yronhand and Astraea Whisperwind.



They’re comfortable being as dorky and geeky as they want with each other. They have been enjoying each other’s company so much that they fell in love without them realizing. Now that they’re together, they’re sillier than ever!


The next couple is Yiell and Soulrun, who also met through RF Online. They’ve been together now for more than two years and still going strong.



One of the factors that made Soulrun swoon off her feet was when Yiell would sing and play the guitar for her. It was kind of complicated for both of them before they got together because Soulrun was still in a relationship at the time. Good thing everything went smoothly for them. At this point, I think Yiell is looking for the right ring for his girl. Oops! Is that supposed to be a surprise?


As for our last couple, the cliché “the more you hate, the more you love” fits them quite well. Thyalla and Ryunaito were introduced by a common friend in the shop they frequented.




Ryunaito convinced Thyalla to play Ragnarok and helped her level up in the game. Then… they started hating each other. It’s hard to tell how they ended up liking each other from that point on but it happened. They got married late last year.

These are inspirational stories, I agree, but for a relationship to succeed, both parties must put effort into making it work. Again, online relationships have a small chance of success. But I’m not saying that they can’t work. Regardless of how you meet – whether through text, chat or online games — it’s important that you see each other face to face (and NOT through a webcam).

Quoting Kahlil Yronhand: “Online relationships are hard. I think they can be an initiator, a catalyst. They’re incredibly useful and good for maintaining closeness and connection but a purely OL relationship is impossible! There has to be a real-life aspect.”

“It’s always been 2 Cs – communication and compromise,” Thyalla shares. “We always talk about things together, no matter how small. If we feel sad, mad, happy, great about something, we share it to each other. It bridges the gap between us and makes sure we’re both on the same page. Then compromise – because we’re two different people, we won’t always see eye-to-eye. We have to find a middle ground where we can both be happy.”

“We spend time online during the weekdays since we both have work and our schedules don’t jive. But weekends, we’re together IRL. It’s important that you make the most of every moment that you spend with each other, be it online or IRL,” says Soulrun on how they’re keeping their relationship tight.

To sum it all, make online games one of your avenues for communicating or keeping in touch. Don’t make it your sole channel to be “with one another.” I’m pretty sure you’d want a real kiss, a real hug, or heck even a real marriage!

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haaay. ang saya ng mga ganito. ang cute! :)

minsan na rin akong nakaranas ng ganyan, in Ragnarok.

and unfortunately, hindi ako nakasama sa mga nai-post ni GM Cydie because our relationship didn't last ng matagal. ano ung 7 months compared sa mga nabasa nyo? anyways, masaya naman at naka-experience ako ng ganito.

kayo rin, try playing MMORPG's and other online games, malay nyo, sa mga singles dyan, makilala nyo na kung sino si Mr./Ms. Right >:)

haha! wala lang, walang maipost e, kaya eto na lang. interesting kasi para sakin e. :P

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last day ng exam bukas then clearance week then bakasyon na. konti na lang! :) sana pasado ako sa lahat ng exams ko. :P


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*Credits to GM Cydie of Ragnarok and Level Up! Games Inc. for this post.